Monday, October 26, 2009

Phone Calls and Friends

This is the post I didn't want to write but I knew it was coming. Godfather's (Chatty's Godfather) dad passed away yesterday. He called yesterday afternoon and told Mr. ESPN. All afternoon I kept thinking about things and feeling guilty that I hadn't talked to Godfather as much in the past few years. I used to be the one he called when something bad happened (i.e. when his mom was diagnosed with breast cancer - she is in remission now). We have laughed and cried over many things during our friendship. But lately (the last five years or so ... do you see the correlation? Chatty is 5 1/2 ) it's Mr. ESPN who listens to him and takes his calls and so many times I am relieved because I am in the midst of doing three different things (like most moms). But as I look back I feel guilty and know I should have stopped what I was doing and made time for some of those phone calls.

Last night I asked Mr. ESPN to call Godfather and check on him (because I was getting the girls ready for baths and bed) .. they spoke for a few minutes and then Mr. ESPN handed me the phone. Godfather and I finally had a chance to talk. He is doing well, is at peace with his father's death and knows it is God's will. That gives me so much comfort. We laughed a little and I cried a little (a lot to Mr. ESPN after I got off the phone). So later this week we will see him and his family at the services. I haven't seen his mom in several years, prior to that time she and I had lunch almost monthly (those of you who know me personally know the story behind this .. it is long and I am not going to go into it here). So needless to say it will be a bit awkward and I am nervous and sad.

I am going to try and make more time for those phone calls now ... from Godfather and my other friends and family too.

7 comments:

The Lenzers said...

So sorry to hear this. It is always hard when you loose someone. Be there for him now cous and things can get back on track. I will hold godfather and his family in our prayers! Call me if you need anything.

Sassafrass Jane said...

So sorry, dear. And what a great reminder for anyone reading--to make more time for those we love. Because you just never know. Hang in there.

starnes family said...

Yes, a great reminder. Life is so precious. I'm learning that now watching my sweet sister with her battles. I admire you for learning and growing.....that is what life is all about.

FROGGITY! said...

you know, people fall in and out of contact, that's just life. no need to think about the past, you're here for them now. it's awesome that you are there for him, and i am sure they appreciate it! praying for you all!

Coco said...

Don't beat yourself up. Kids and husbands and new friends tend to takeover.

It happens, but it isn't too late to do something about it.

Deelsu said...

So sorry to hear about him. As CoCo said.. it's not too late.

BMB-The Mom said...

So sorry to hear about G's dad. I meant to ask you on Saturday how he was. Just think, he's in a better place than us and he can now rest painfree. I hope when you see G's family later this week everything goes well. I'm sure it will but I can understand how awkward it may be. Please tell G we are thinking of him.